One of the things anti-polygamists are using against polygamy is the ratio of men to women. In the past, they say that there are a lot more women. Polygamy was allowed back then so the few men can take care of all those women. Today, the ratio is like 1:1 or maybe a bit skewed in favor of women. There's really no reason for men to have more than one wife.
This is true in secular polygamy, if we can get all those men and women to pair up. However, there is more to it than meets the eye. We are talking about Biblical polygamy and God is not only present in the picture, He takes up the whole background. It means that God must be present in the lives of the polygamists, we must have a personal relationship with Him, become believers.
Now, if the ratio is 1:1, how many of those men would be believers? A hundred percent? I don't think so, as our times is ruled by rebellion against God. Let's say only 50% of men are believers (an extremely liberal estimate) then the ratio becomes 1:2. How about only 25% are believers? The ratio is now 1:4. The number of men who can love, protect, and take care of men under the guidance, mercy, and grace of God becomes fewer.
Okay, it seems like I'm being self-righteous here. But are not unwed women instructed to look for righteous and obedient husbands who prioritize their relationship with God in their lives? Are we denying women the right to be truly loved and attain true happiness, tranquillity, and contentment as part of a God-fearing man's family?
I have the misfortune (in the sense that I'd rather have them found different men for husbands) of personally knowing three women whose lives were profoundly changed and deeply affected by the jerks whom they married. The first one's husband packed up one day, saying he's just going home to his mother, but he never came back. That woman is now living with somebody else and we know what this means. The second one's husband is the personification of the sin of sloth. He lived off his wife's earnings and had the audacity to get intimate with a neighbour's wife. Talk about hitting the 6th or 7th commandment right on the head. The third woman's partner went abroad to work and never came back.
These gals are not perfect but they are good women and are pleasant to the eyes, to boot. It is simply their rotten luck to fall for rotten specimens of the male species because of limited opportunities. I've been asking myself what if polygamy is socially acceptable and these women were given the opportunity to find that "perfect" mate, regardless of marital status? Will they opt for a married man who has proven himself with an existing family?
I also know God-fearing women who are already well into their 30's but are still unmarried because they are unable to find "that" guy. Some say that their standards for men are high. I know better, they are not looking for some rich and handsome prince, they are looking for somebody who both fears and love God and obeys Him. They are terrified to absolutely submit themselves to some asshole jerk, as they are commanded to do in the Bible once married.
It is the men who are supposed to be the spiritual leaders and bread winners of the family. Will women simply accept their fate to be married to spiritual wimps because of cultural norms or false doctrines? For true Christians, the total number of men is not what it appears to be. Christian polygyny is no only about getting a man's name, it is more about a chance to be welcomed into a loving and supportive family.
No comments:
Post a Comment